Nedsatt hørsel? Sliten? Kurstilbud

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Nedsatt hørsel innebærer for mange en kontinuerlig kompenseringsinnsats. Du må kompensere mentalt for den informasjonen du mister, du kompenserer for muskulære anstrengelser i nakke og skulder, for nedsatt balanse, du bruker energi på å lokalisere hvor lyder kommer fra osv. Stress og følelse av utmattelse forekommer ofte i kjølvannet av nedsatt hørsel.

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Finally there – and difficult feelings

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Right now I’m in Zambia, next to Lake Kariba. Planned this trip a good while ago, among other to keep me busy doing something exciting while I’m waiting for the CI. It is a good strategy for me to have my mind on something else than such a frustrating thing like the CI-waiting….

Just  before I left I received a letter from the hospital calling me to the second appointment. To my great regret, this coincided with my planned trip 😦

But sometimes in life things have to go as planned, and I have asked the hospital for a new appointment. I feel like a traitor.

I have asked and nagged for this CI surgery for so long, and now when the appointment for the second and last examination finally appeared, it appeared before I expected (I asked the hospital a few weeks back when to expect something to happen).

lake kariba 009And it also seems I will get problems bringing my girlfriend with me on the second appointment. This is the session where all the information is given, and I have to find a way to get her to come along… She needs that information even more than I do… We’ll have to work something out, I guess… Take care of it when we get there, I guess….

Anyway, the date is now 18.06.09! 🙂 This is the second and final examination before the actual surgery.

Looking forward to it with both a little fear but mostly with great joy!

Meanwhile I’m having a great time here at the greates man-made dam in all of Afrika, just as planned! I intend to forget my difficult feelings and just absorb all the impressions and enjoy them. I feel I deserve it!

Visit my facebook-profile for updates on my Africa trip 🙂 

(just klick my personalized Facebook-banner on the top-left of this blog)

Patience, understanding and love

When I started this blog in late 2006, I had a feeling it would be a long journey (that’s why I started the blog in the first place). That suspicion became stronger after receiving a letter from the hospital saying that they had an obligation to operate on me before 2010. What I had ahead of me back then, has been more or less as expected. I was prepared for a long haul.

“To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly”. ~Henri Bergson

I want changeMy every day life has changed a lot. More activity, never a dull moment. I wish the day had more hours :-)  I’m not “waiting” for the CI anymore, I let that struggle go this winter, focusing more on my own life and people around me. (Mind you, I still need the CI desperately!) I’ve had enough of trying to understand why Rikshospitalet are not able to operate more than 50% of what the Health ministered ordered last year (see some of my previous posts). I don’t think my engagement into this issue has any meaning or bearing anymore. I’m sad to say this. (I hope I had a little impact, but I have achieved no real results, to my knowledge anyway.)

Waiting, waiting and more waiting. In fact, it has been so much waiting, that life happened during the waiting 🙂

And life is what everything is about, isn’t it?

In retrospect I can with great certainty conclude that I did all the right things back in 2006 and 2007. (You have to read the past posts on this blog in order to know what has happened to me and what I have done  :-)  )

I have managed to get my life back. I am in a place that is brighter and better, even though it has it’s challenges. I am where I want and need to be.

I am able to cope with life, and take care of my loved ones and myself (somewhat).

But I’m walking a fine line. Experiences from every day life tells me that I have very little to go on. Only thanks to the slow process of acknowledging that I’m by definition deaf, I have come to understand better what the process of loosing one’s hearing does both mentally, physically and socially. And take some precautions in order to preserve myself from exhaustion.

I am deaf, I use hearing aids to take advantage of the very little hearing residue I have left and thus suffer from a rather severe case of “recruitment”. I have tinnitus on both ears, get tired really quickly in general (and then the tinnitus really howls!) and have no chance of keeping a regular job. I need all my strength to take care of my son, my dearest girlfriend and her son, and last but not least, myself.The Fight Of My Life IMG_1252

I had to fight to get my life back. I had to fight with my willpower in order to do all the right things in many areas of my life. I changed a lot in my life. I changed myself in many ways. I changed how my family perceived me. I had to get them to understand me better. And it helped.

In a way I had to try NOT to fight, too! By accepting my fate and my condition (it is by no means a surrender, mind you! :-)  ) I have learned that my mind and willpower can work against me as well. Rather than standing tall in the strong wind, risking to break something or get hit by flying debris, it is better to bend over and lie down on the ground and survive. Sometimes it is much better to accept fate and accept conditions, rather than opposing the facts and use a lot of energy trying to get things my way. The consciousness of this “bend before you break” is helping me in many areas of my life.

This blog will remain active at least until I have received my first CI by the end of this year, but it will be less active due to lack of time and energy to keep it updated.

I have learned to suck things up. Take a punch. Even though life is hard when it comes to my health right now, I have so much to be grateful for. I will not allow myself to turn sour or negative. What happens happens. I’ll do my best and want to keep a positive mind about everything. All is good until proven otherwise 😉

I’m going to use this experience to improve my own life in the future. No matter what. There is another day tomorrow!

“If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we are not really living.” ~Gail Sheehy

What to think?

Since my last post life has grabbed hold of me 🙂 This is a good thing. I’m changing my life in the direction I have always wished for. I consider myself extremely lucky 😀

Life is looking good, but has it’s challenges and a few funny twists…

Challenge 1: how to engage in healthy social life as a post-linguistic late deafened man without blowing a few fuses?
Answer: It’s near impossible. But with an understanding and supportive girlfriend who also gives me “the speech” when I need to hear it, I’m learning my lessons and I have to take the consequences of it. And I do. Many thanks to my sweetheart for being my honest and fierce hearing assistant and for taking care of me!
The very first meet with her large great family was made into a positive experience despite really sad circumstances. “C’est la vie”, as the french say.

Challenge 2: how to handle the (what I feel is) suspicion from medical professionals that ask me if I can’t do more than I am doing at present time?
Answer: Tell myself that my feelings can be ignored (in this matter), that I’m probably mistaken, and that if my physician really wanted to understand, she could ask me more questions. No one can understand my condition without having been there themselves, or asking me about how it is (I have become quite good at explaining it). On a side note: my perfect speech has become one of my “problems”, because “you can’t speak perfect and have a hearing problem” (you should at least have a speech deficiency!). Most people almost fall off their chair when I tell them my hearing chart classifies me as a deaf (as they have shown for many years).
It’s my hearing it’s something wrong with, not my head and certainly not my mouth!

Challenge 3: How to handle large life altering changes in life?
One thing at a time. And take it slow if you can. I have no other recipe. 🙂

Twist no. 1: A girl I know applied for CI after me, who has suffered sudden deafness on one ear, is due for CI-surgery at Rikshospitalet within the next two weeks. Why is she prioritized?
Believe me when I say that I’m thrilled for her! She is a great person, and really deserves it. But what about me? Didn’t I complain enough? Am I too naive about expecting the medical professionals to understand my condition? Isn’t it enough with deafness on both ears, a recruitment problem and a devilish tinnitus? I have a child I’m taking care of too! I feel I’m being punished for coping too well through difficulties in my life… It’s not the first time this has happened to me. I keep on doing my best. It’s all I can do. And to wish others good luck with their surgeries… My turn will come. I’m lucky and blessed with what I have in my life… I shouldn’t complain… I just want things to be fair and equal. But you can’t expect life to ever be fair, I’ve learned that much. It will only disappoint you.

Twist no. 2: The government are about to release a “finance crisis” package of stimulation to the economy. How about stimulating Rikshospitalet to operate on all those 200+ adults who need CI and have to wait 2+ years? That alone would save the well fare system for vast amounts of funds! It aggravates me! This (CI) group of individuals are too small to be heard in the larger context! I’m still waiting for Association for Hard of Hearing to get going with the process about the CI-operations at Rikshospitalet that is failing to meet the demands from the Health Minister last year… But anyway my turn is due soon, and this media-thing will probably come too late to have any effect for me anyway.

Frustration no. 1:
I had to ask for an extension of my temporary well fare benefit due to the slow process of CI-surgeries at Rikshospitalet. It will probably amount to another year! Another 500 000 NOK of taxpayer money wasted, and another year for my professional career gets lost. I’m starting to think: why bother trying?

Status update IV – early autumn 2008 – part 1 of 5

Hello again, world! Sorry for my absence lately…

It is time to summarize my condition and status concerning the CI-process again. What has happened since last time and what is current approximate time schedule?

It’s now a rough period for me. Things are heavier and I struggle with a lot of different things internally. It began this late summer. Personal life hit a speed bump and for the first time since I “hit the wall” back in 2006 I have regressed somewhat. The positive in this rough patch is that this time I’m more aware of what is happening, and I’ve been strong enough to avoid depression and destructive “artificial solutions”. This is very much thanks to the ongoing psychological therapy I continuously attend. And of course, it has mostly to do with my inner strength and my own reflections and attitude. My therapist constantly reminds me of that. It is about time I remind myself too. I feel like I have finally grown up, at the age of 36! Way to go, I say to myself. Better late than never 😉

Life in general

I have projects to keep me busy. I’m fixing up the apartment these days. Painting doors white (they had this dreadful dirty greenish seventies retro color with dark brown/black frames. Some retro is cool, but these doors were outright depressing). I paint both the frames and the door blades white and give them new brushed steel handles which is much nicer. Maybe it’s new doors of perception I am making? I certainly will perceive them differently after this refurbishment and renewal process.
I also have a long “to do-list” hanging on the refrigerator, so when I have the money for it, I’ll continue on that.
My son is at my place a lot, which is a handful for me, but very rewarding and pleasing. We have a lot of fun. Maybe I’m too much of a weekend-dad, but hey, life is too short to be an uptight authority figure all the time… My son gives my existence a real meaning. A reason to keep fighting and to stay in there.

I just started my own company. Got it registered and already have one big client which is enough at the time. Since I’m a beneficiary of a government support arrangement, I’m only allowed to earn a certain amount extra, which suits me fine. I’m not able to work that much anyway. So this arrangement is perfect at the time being. I’m starting something new, I’m keeping busy, avoiding the couch potato depression and making myself ready for post CI.-surgery.

My familys place in Sweden is a resource for me. I can do all sorts of physical labor things there, at my own pace and only the stuff I enjoy doing. It is a sort of therapy, to do practical things. When I focus at the task at hand, I can forget about the whole world and everything for a time. Things I do is various tasks with our 1959 Fordson Power Major tractor, building a tree hut for the kids (will eventually have three floors and be the hut I dreamed about as a kid 🙂  ), maintaining a patch of forest wood as a lumberjack. We’re also currently trying to fix up a garden that had been dormant for 6 years or so. We’re making a rose garden with all sorts of roses. That includes trying to make a whole new lawn on a patch that is about 25 x 75 meters.

I take kayak trips, photograph, do some woodcarving, welding, fix my car and play around in this great workshop garage that we have, fixing boat engines among other things. I play with the idea of building a go-cart for my son with a lawn-mover engine…

Also I’m making plans for the future. The business and my new company is part of that. I am now able to try it out on a small scale, make experiences, and can then make a more qualified decision when I am going back to working properly again. I look forward to that. Get out, meet people, be social, and enjoy my home and free time with good consciousness.

My un-sound condition – pre CI era

I want to make this list in order to remind myself what it was like before I got the CI (2007/2008). Maybe I run into problems post-surgery post-sound activation and need a reminder of how I reacted to sounds before the operation(s). It’s a time capsule to myself…

Here’s a similar post I wrote January this year…

These are the sounds that causes great stress, fatigue, even pain and vertigo in me these days… 
  • All things mechanical like car engines, especially bigger engines like on buses and trucks.
  • to many voices at the same time, especially if a little loud
  • the clanking sound of ceramics against ceramics (dinner plates)
  • my son at the top of his voice (vertigo)
  • my mothers voice when louder
  • children voices
  • the vibration sounds from my computer, or maybe it’s one of the fans
  • inside my car
  • elevator music and “muzak” (because it’s too faint for me to grasp, or too noisy otherwise, my brain tries too hard)
  • the hiss from the steamer on a cappuccino-machine
  • if everything else is quiet, the refrigerator noise is picked up by my HA and that sound wears me down
  • the air-condition in office buildings and alike
  • stiletto-heels and other hard shoe soles on hard surfaces
  • vacuum-cleaner and other domestic appliances
  • music     😦
  • any sounds in a room with bad acoustics (naked floors, walls and ceiling echoing sounds)
  • any background sound when I’m having a conversation
These are the sounds I can’t hear at all anymore even with hearing aids on
  • Birds singing (could hear them faintly as a kid)
  • My cat meowing
  • My bedside alarm clock
  • the fire alarm
  • the doorbell
  • running water
  • rain falling on rooftop
  • someone yelling my name from a distance or another room

The cost of a CI-operation?

Can anyone tell me the cost of a CI-operation? Either for one ear, or simultaneously both ears?

I would like to “hear” (pun intended 😉 ) from everyone who has knowledge about it…

On a personal note…

My writing is a bit slow these days, I hit a mental bump in the road caused by these budget cuts I was interviewed about

I’m sleepless in Oslo again, and thought it would be a nice opportunity for letting the world know I’m still here…. And finally browse through some old photos of mine…. Time to air them 🙂

Easter holiday is just around the corner, and I intend to spend my time at our Swedish farm by the lake to get my inner strength back. I will hopefully complete a restoration of a sturdy American built Mercury outboard-engine that has been broken and lying around for years.
Also I will take up a new hobby; kayaking! And with that another too long ignored interest of mine will be much more interesting: photography…

I imagine a lot of photo-opportunities just waits there for me to capture… Have plans to take it up again… Hope to show some of them off here on my blog in near future! These two were taken last year with my Nokia cell-phone, imagine what I could do with a proper camera….

And good wishes (and a little jealousy  😉   ) goes to these recently CI-activated blogger’s! Pay them a visit and leave a happy Easter note and let them know we’re CI-happy for them! Some of them has posted their activation videos, check it out!

Sam the brave-blade-Runner, Steve the Ruminator, Michael “ReBuilt” Chorost, Abbie “Contradica”, Jennifer “the butterfly” and Jeff “metalhead”.

 

With this last picture I took last year around Easter time I bid thee good night and I wish all my readers a happy Easter holiday!